Multiple psychological and sociological studies have reported that it is more rewarding to work in a group than alone. So, why don’t we cooperate all the time?
We all have strong desires to receive, it’s the driving force behind most of what we do (What’s in it for me?, How can I work this out to my advantage?) even the most altruistic individuals still do much of what they do because they get something (maybe it’s only that warm fuzzy feeling) from it.
If that’s the case why don’t we do more collaborating? What is it about us that makes us choose to do things on our own even when we know we work better together? Why are competitive and individualistic behaviour’s promoted?
The reason is because our ego’s stimulate our desire to have more, but not just for more, but to have more than others. We want to be more unique and superior than others so we try to do things on our own. Working with others would provide our own evidence that it is better to work together than alone. This then provides our egos with the proof that working together is not better because others will then get the same as we do, and this does not fulfill our egoistic desire to be unique or superior.
“The base nature of each and every person is to exploit the lives of all other people in the world for his own benefit. All that we give to another is only out of necessity; and even then there is exploitation of others within it, but it is done cunningly, so that our neighbour will not notice it and concede willingly.” Baal HaSulam
How can we merely dismiss others, the help they offer or likewise how is it that they are able to dismiss us and our offers. Going it alone seems to stem back to what is called the school of hard knox. Whereas working with others makes it easier for all and provides many more benefits than doing things on our own.
When we work with others we give of ourselves to them (bestowal) and they do so in kind. This helping of one another, bestowing your energies and life force to them or to a common goal is what is considered to be walking the ‘path of of light.’ The term, “light,” refers to the sensation of delight that the desire to receive (which is our essence) experiences when it is filled.
Based on the book, Self Interest vs. Altruism in the Global Era: How Society Can Turn Self Interests into Mutual Benefit by Dr. Michael Laitman.