It’s More Rewarding to Work Together

Multiple psychological and sociological studies have reported that it is more rewarding to work in a group than alone. So, why don’t we cooperate all the time?

We all have strong desires to receive, it’s the driving force behind most of what we do (What’s in it for me?, How can I work this out to my advantage?) even the most altruistic individuals still do much of what they do because they get something (maybe it’s only that warm fuzzy feeling) from it.

If that’s the case why don’t we do more collaborating? What is it about us that makes us choose to do things on our own even when we know we work better together?  Why are competitive and individualistic behaviour’s promoted?

The reason is because our ego’s stimulate our desire to have more, but not just for more, but to have more than others.  We want to be more unique and superior than others so we try to do things on our own. Working with others would provide our own evidence that it is better to work together than alone.  This then provides our egos with the proof that working together is not better because others will then get the same as we do, and this does not fulfill our egoistic desire to be unique or superior.

“The base nature of each and every person is to exploit the lives of all other people in the world for his own benefit. All that we give to another is only out of necessity; and even then there is exploitation of others within it, but it is done cunningly, so that our neighbour will not notice it and concede willingly.”       Baal HaSulam

How can we merely dismiss others, the help they offer or likewise how is it that they are able to dismiss us and our offers.  Going it alone seems to stem back to what is called the school of hard knox.  Whereas working with others makes it easier for all and provides many more benefits than doing things on our own.

When we work with others we give of ourselves to them (bestowal) and they do so in kind.  This helping of one another, bestowing your energies and life force to them or to a common goal is what is considered to be walking the ‘path of of light.’ The term, “light,” refers to the sensation of delight that the desire to receive (which is our essence) experiences when it is filled.

We receive when we bestow.  This may seem simplistic, but if we follow our egoistic paths it quickly becomes impossible to relate positively to any person, except out of necessity.  differencess

Based on the book, Self Interest vs. Altruism in the Global Era: How Society Can Turn Self Interests into Mutual Benefit by Dr. Michael Laitman.

Benefiting from Interdependence and Connection



So often, that it’s difficult to understand how it could be, we hear about groups and individuals within them who care nothing about anything but themselves.  Their egos have virtually taken them over.  The day-to-day life around them is dominated by how can they get others to buy their product(s), use their service(s), how can they can get something out of every situation.  With the obvious end result being they have little regard for whether or not people want or need those items.  Their will to receive (their ego) is so great that their entire existence literally revolves around those egoistic desires.

What can we do to shift this trend?  With our lives being so irreversibly interdependent and interconnected.  It is very easy to look at the current events of any given area of the world and see how the events happening there influence events of our own or other locations.  Our day-to day existence depends on how we interact.

I’m sure you’ve heard of ‘Six Degrees of Separation’ it was first postulated publicly in the 1950’s and later a movie and a play by the same name were made ‘Six Degrees of Separation’.  Basically, everyone is six or fewer steps away, via introduction, from any other person in the world.  We can create a chain of ‘a friend of a friend’ statements that can be used to connect any two people in a maximum of six steps.

I myself find this easy to believe, if you use or are a fan of many of the social networks available on the Internet as I do, I’m sure you will find the same. One of those networks has me connected directly to 136 people and their first, second and third level connections give me access to in excess of 6.7 million others.

Our technological advances especially within the areas of communications and travel allow us to be larger than ourselves, we span greater distances faster and more then at any time in the past.  Our modern world is virtually shrinking each day due to our ever-increasing connectedness.  Despite the sometimes-great physical distances.

Mathematician Manfred Kochen extrapolated the empirical results in a manuscript entitled ‘Contacts and Influences’ in 1973 concluding at that time it was practically certain that in a U.S.A sized population base and structure “any two individuals can contact one another by using at most two intermediaries”.

If we are to actually make this a world that we can all live together on, our day-to-day lives need to be making a similar movement towards a similar goal.  We can accomplish this greater connectedness through bestowal.  Helping someone or something when the help is needed with no thought of compensation or return.

Each time we receive a chance to relate with or to others with greater concern for them than for ourselves we are bestowing our self to them.  A connection is made between souls.  The ending result of bestowal is reception.  We receive a feeling of belonging, although it is a fleeting feeling and does not last long.  Be we can get it back as often as we like by creating bestowal again.

As we move towards this life of bestowal and reception we begin to move internally and externally closer to those we bestow upon.  This then moves us toward the reality of our existence that we are in fact the highest level of life on this planet, and we do not need to take anything for by bestowing we receive everything.

Humanity has little experience operating this way.  We are used to defining ourselves as individuals or members of factions of society, from family to nation-state, the current situations around the world necessitate that we expand our view.  We must become aware of the truth of our interconnectedness if we are to survive and flourish.