Learning to Unite

growLife is not a solo affair.  It’s a constant collaboration. At home, work, during our hobbies and social affairs.  We crave the company of others.  It can be one or it can be many but the feeling is the same, when others are around we feel more…  What?  Happy, at ease, comfortable, adventurous, the list goes on and on.  Those feelings are not just part of you and me they are a part of everything.

Life starts and goes on, from the moment we are born until the time we are no longer a part of this reality, we search for others.  We feel the need to surround ourselves with those who care about us and support us.  For the lucky ones, they find those others at an early time in their lives.  The not so lucky spend enormous amounts of time and energy looking for those who can provide to us what it is we need.

branchesThese feelings are not just within humans. They are built into the very fabric of our universe.  in all the vast distances of space, everything is looking for a connection to something else.  The sub-atomic level of our existence is made up of protons and electrons which bind themselves together thus creating a purpose for themselves in the creation of the elements.  Those elements then look to bind with others of there kind and with other elements to make up everything we feel, see and think is our life and world.  It’s a built in component of our entire existence.
Yet… those same feelings of wanting to be with others, live intricately alongside feelings of wanting to be special and different, the squeaky wheel, the standout.  The one others look to when they… feel the need to be with others.  How is it that we can have these opposing urges within us sometimes at the seemingly same time?  Electrons trying to pull others in while at the same time trying to push others away.  Life is certainly complex.

The intrinsic processes of wanting for ourselves (ego), and wanting for others (altruism) are fundamental to our well being.  They are the Yin and Yan of all life.  Ego is our drive forward our desire to have, to standout, to receive.  Altruism is bestowal of giving, our conscience if you will.  They are the fundamental laws of all existence.  When in balance they work flawlessly with each other, if no balance occurs we have interminable problems.  It matters not whether we are speaking on a emotional level or any other.  There reciprocal relationship is what makes everything what it is.

We cannot be islands unto ourselves, our networks, and groups, make the difference between success and failure. maintainThis is true whether you hope to succeed at a personal, business or spiritual level.  We must challenge ourselves get to know others, share your thoughts, feelings, appreciations your likes and dislikes.  It is only through these types of discourse can we fully learn to bestow on others what is they need.  Through that bestowal we will provide what society, nature and ourselves what is required.

Connectionz Are What Matterz!

Benefiting from Interdependence and Connection

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So often, that it’s difficult to understand how it could be, we hear about groups and individuals within them who care nothing about anything but themselves.  Their egos have virtually taken them over.  The day-to-day life around them is dominated by how can they get others to buy their product(s), use their service(s), how can they can get something out of every situation.  With the obvious end result being they have little regard for whether or not people want or need those items.  Their will to receive (their ego) is so great that their entire existence literally revolves around those egoistic desires.

What can we do to shift this trend?  With our lives being so irreversibly interdependent and interconnected.  It is very easy to look at the current events of any given area of the world and see how the events happening there influence events of our own or other locations.  Our day-to day existence depends on how we interact.

I’m sure you’ve heard of ‘Six Degrees of Separation’ it was first postulated publicly in the 1950’s and later a movie and a play by the same name were made ‘Six Degrees of Separation’.  Basically, everyone is six or fewer steps away, via introduction, from any other person in the world.  We can create a chain of ‘a friend of a friend’ statements that can be used to connect any two people in a maximum of six steps.

I myself find this easy to believe, if you use or are a fan of many of the social networks available on the Internet as I do, I’m sure you will find the same. One of those networks has me connected directly to 136 people and their first, second and third level connections give me access to in excess of 6.7 million others.

Our technological advances especially within the areas of communications and travel allow us to be larger than ourselves, we span greater distances faster and more then at any time in the past.  Our modern world is virtually shrinking each day due to our ever-increasing connectedness.  Despite the sometimes-great physical distances.

Mathematician Manfred Kochen extrapolated the empirical results in a manuscript entitled ‘Contacts and Influences’ in 1973 concluding at that time it was practically certain that in a U.S.A sized population base and structure “any two individuals can contact one another by using at most two intermediaries”.

If we are to actually make this a world that we can all live together on, our day-to-day lives need to be making a similar movement towards a similar goal.  We can accomplish this greater connectedness through bestowal.  Helping someone or something when the help is needed with no thought of compensation or return.

Each time we receive a chance to relate with or to others with greater concern for them than for ourselves we are bestowing our self to them.  A connection is made between souls.  The ending result of bestowal is reception.  We receive a feeling of belonging, although it is a fleeting feeling and does not last long.  Be we can get it back as often as we like by creating bestowal again.

As we move towards this life of bestowal and reception we begin to move internally and externally closer to those we bestow upon.  This then moves us toward the reality of our existence that we are in fact the highest level of life on this planet, and we do not need to take anything for by bestowing we receive everything.

Humanity has little experience operating this way.  We are used to defining ourselves as individuals or members of factions of society, from family to nation-state, the current situations around the world necessitate that we expand our view.  We must become aware of the truth of our interconnectedness if we are to survive and flourish.