Life is not a solo affair. It’s a constant collaboration. At home, work, during our hobbies and social affairs. We crave the company of others. It can be one or it can be many but the feeling is the same, when others are around we feel more… What? Happy, at ease, comfortable, adventurous, the list goes on and on. Those feelings are not just part of you and me they are a part of everything.
Life starts and goes on, from the moment we are born until the time we are no longer a part of this reality, we search for others. We feel the need to surround ourselves with those who care about us and support us. For the lucky ones, they find those others at an early time in their lives. The not so lucky spend enormous amounts of time and energy looking for those who can provide to us what it is we need.
These feelings are not just within humans. They are built into the very fabric of our universe. in all the vast distances of space, everything is looking for a connection to something else. The sub-atomic level of our existence is made up of protons and electrons which bind themselves together thus creating a purpose for themselves in the creation of the elements. Those elements then look to bind with others of there kind and with other elements to make up everything we feel, see and think is our life and world. It’s a built in component of our entire existence.
Yet… those same feelings of wanting to be with others, live intricately alongside feelings of wanting to be special and different, the squeaky wheel, the standout. The one others look to when they… feel the need to be with others. How is it that we can have these opposing urges within us sometimes at the seemingly same time? Electrons trying to pull others in while at the same time trying to push others away. Life is certainly complex.
The intrinsic processes of wanting for ourselves (ego), and wanting for others (altruism) are fundamental to our well being. They are the Yin and Yan of all life. Ego is our drive forward our desire to have, to standout, to receive. Altruism is bestowal of giving, our conscience if you will. They are the fundamental laws of all existence. When in balance they work flawlessly with each other, if no balance occurs we have interminable problems. It matters not whether we are speaking on a emotional level or any other. There reciprocal relationship is what makes everything what it is.
We cannot be islands unto ourselves, our networks, and groups, make the difference between success and failure. This is true whether you hope to succeed at a personal, business or spiritual level. We must challenge ourselves get to know others, share your thoughts, feelings, appreciations your likes and dislikes. It is only through these types of discourse can we fully learn to bestow on others what is they need. Through that bestowal we will provide what society, nature and ourselves what is required.
Connectionz Are What Matterz!