There is a book that was published some time ago, “If life is a bowl of cherries, why am I always in the pits?” This often sums up, many people’s feelings. What’s the answer? It’s our self-talk, the banter that goes on inside our heads every minute of every day.
You see from a very early age we’re taught to be mindful, watch where we go, watch what we’re doing, how we’re doing it? Early on in our lives, we learn two of the most powerful words there are in language for us, “Don’t and No”. For many people these are the first words they actually learn to understand, say and recognize. Of course these are taught by our parents and mentors to help to protect us from things happening. Unfortunately, by learning these words at such an impressionable time in our lives we also learn to incorporate them into our self-talk, without even realizing we’re doing it.
As human beings we are capable of doing so much, much more then we ever think is possible. I am passionate believer in that. Each and every one of us is a mine of unrealized potential. We miss opportunities to harvest most of that potential every day. Opportunities happen all around us, all the time. We need to learn to recognize them and we to learn how to take advantage of those opportunities and access that potential within us.
Opportunities permit us to step beyond what’s been done before, they provide us the chance to challenge the status quo, to look at old things in a new way. Most of us have heard the saying, ‘When life gives you lemons, make lemonade’. What we’re talking about is taking what you think are problems, and turning them into something new and exciting.
So how do we access that potential. The principles behind what it takes to access that potential are the same no matter what career or industry you are in. We can apply them just as easily to our home life or anything else that we want to accomplish. It isn’t easy, and it doesn’t happen overnight. In order to have the impact that I’m speaking of we need to look deep into ourselves and ask the person we find there if they actually want to change? Because without a commitment to change, it won’t happen.
Basically, we need to get past what holds us back. I’m not speaking of the human limitations we may have, I’m speaking of the only true limitation that we all have. “Ourselves” If we can do that we are well on our way.
We ignore or give away more than half the opportunities in our lives, and most of our true potential lies at the beginning of those opportunities. “Every Day Of Our Lives”. When we see, hear or think about anything our first reaction often is “That’s great, but I could never do that”, or possibly we say “I could try that”, but then we never follow through. Then there’s the big one, the one where we actually start something and only aim at the middle. They aim at mediocrity, and they hit it. “Why?”
It’s our fears, we all have fears. But in general there are only three that hold us back:
1) the fear of failure,
2) the fear of rejection,
3) the fear of success.
Read the next chapter and find out more about realizing our potential. Problems and Opportunities