People are People

Regardless of who you are, where you’re from or what you do for a living, people are people and we all want the same basic things. Of course there are physiological differences but putting those aside, we are left with a number of attributes that are prevalent the world over. 

ideas-sWhy otherwise would advertising work so well? It’s well known in marketing circles that if you appeal to certain aspects of human psychology it is far easier to persuade people to your point of view.

I can tell you based on over 25 years of sales experience, this is fundamentally true. Another truth is that our relationships run us. We react and do things based on the people we’re constantly with or want to be with. Cultivation of personal relationships is then what it’s all about.

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” - Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

Relationships run the world. The most successful can meet almost anyone and build an almost instantaneous relationship. While the rest of us have a difficult time with it, even when we would like to do better. Why is that? A thorough look at anyone who is good at creating relationships will reveal some interesting characteristics, the likes of which can help us all.

A connection is a two way street, it starts as a one way approach, which develops and builds from there. To connect ‘we have to want to give or do for another person’ with ‘no thought for what we may get out of it’. What can I do you? How can I help you? Whenever we meet someone these are the type of thoughts we must keep in mind. If we do, a connection will be close at hand.

reach-sA kind word, a helping hand, along with kind and helping thoughts; these will always work during an approach, from there if we continue to keep the other person in mind with the same kind of thoughts and desires, a connection will just get stronger and stronger. That doesn’t mean everyone will become your friend or that the relationship will grow and expand. It does mean the onus is on each one of us to keep others in mind first and foremost, it doesn’t matter what situation you’re talking about.

For many people this will be quite difficult at first especially those who may have never been nurtured that way, but it gets easier as more effort and frequency is put into it. By keeping others in mind first we slowly become more ‘altruistic’, our EGO (that part of us that is always saying what’s in it for me) decreases and the number of true relationships will increase. You gradually change from a ME first person, to a YOU first person.

Others will begin to look at you as a desirable person to be around, as you become more consistent in your thoughts and deeds and as you treat others as if they are real and important. The more you strive to learn about and be there for others even in simple ways the more memorable person you will become to others.

upwardAs a result your own happiness will also increase, because when we’re with others, we feel more positive, which leads to greater happiness. When we’re happier, we make more connectionz and have better relationships, which in turn makes us more positive and on and on in an “upward spiral”.

Connectionz Are What Matterz !

Connectionz

Connectionz Do Help
Your friend gets your joke. Your family member listens to how your day went, a co-worker helps you to finish something on time, you give your better half give you a big hug. They are all helping you bust stress and boost you well-being.  Humans are social: We crave the feeling of being  supported, valued and connected.big smile
Benefits of social connection:
•    Increased happiness.
•    Better health.
•    A longer life.
Connectionz can take many forms, from intense talks, to helping someone accomplish something or maybe its just telling a good joke.

Creating Connectionz
A Connection happens when:
•    you give or get help, such as having a neighbor house sit for you
•    you give or get emotional support, someone tells you, “I’m really sorry for your loss”
•    someone helps to alter your perspective, reminding someone that ‘This to shall pass’
•    getting or receiving advice, or suggestionz
•    you people learn they are not the only one who like, or does something
•    you know you can rely on someone, to do what they say.

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Every One Needs Support!
Family or friends….who:
•    you feel comfortable to be with
•    give you a sense you could tell them anything
•    help you solve situations or problems
•    make you feel valued
•    take your concerns seriously

 

Making Friends
If you feel your you don’t have enough connectionz or support. Consider these suggestions:
•    Enroll in a learning adventure (night school or other course).
•    Join a club or group.
•    Volunteer
•    Reach out by attending any events in your area.

Based on information from “http://www.liveyourlifewell.org and © Mental Health America”

Healthy Relationships Make A Healthy Economy!

healthy-relationships“Despite massive wealth creation, happiness has not risen since the 1950s in the US or Britain… No researcher questions these facts. So accelerated economic growth is not a goal for which we should make large sacrifices. In particular, we should not sacrifice the most important source of happiness, which is the quality of human relationships—at home, at work, and in the community.”
–Richard Layard, The Financial Times, March 11, 2009

Why Human Nature, and Not the Economy, Should be Regulated
No aspect of our lives better expresses our interconnectedness than the economy. When we are united, the economy is the first to thrive and boosts every aspect of our lives along with it. But when we are separated from each other, it is the first to collapse. Then, everything grinds to a halt along with it.

Centuries ago, when we first began to trade with each other, we began to interconnect, and globalization was born. If we knew then about the desire to receive and the desire to give, the history of humanity would be very different from the bloody march of folly it has turned out to be.

Today, it is impossible to “de-globalize” the world. We must begin to act as one united humanity, in line with nature’s principle of collaboration and self-fulfillment, or life as we know it will end. And the way to unite is to become aware of the two desires and employ both in our negotiations, especially around finances, given today’s monetary crisis.
It is not tougher regulation or buying of “toxic assets” that will help us through the present crisis. The way out is to understand that what needs to be regulated is human nature, not the economy. Our economy is only a projection of our one-track minds: receiving, receiving, and more receiving.

Today, humanity must come to realize that it is in our best interest to consider others in our plans, or else those plans will fail. Therefore, the first step in the financial bailout plan should be to share information and provide facts about the kind of world we live in, which is global and interdependent.

People should know that there are two forces running the world. The first is the desire to receive, which economists call “the profit-oriented economy,” meaning capitalism. The second force is the desire to give, which aims to increase general prosperity and well-being.

The Lazy Man’s Guide to the Dark Side of the Free Market
Simply put, in today’s financial dealings, everyone must profit or no one will profit. To be exact, the term, “everyone,” does not refer to the parties involved in a contract, but to the entire world.

Does that mean that before every new deal or agreement, the parties must knock on the door of every home in the world, explain the proposed deal, and ask for a signed consent to it? This would hardly be practical. All it means is that we must change our attitude towards considering everyone’s benefit instead of ours alone.

For example, whenever a new product is launched, the manufacturer immediately seeks to outdo its competitors. The new company aims to increase its market share, and we call this process, “capitalism.” However, at the end of the day, what is really happening is an attempt to “steal” customers from those already in the market. This is the accepted norm.

Similarly, banks today are not committed to boosting the faltering economy or assisting people who want to start businesses or buy homes. Banks want only one thing: to make as much money as they can for their shareholders (owners/directors). And if they have to pay their lower-ranking employees shameful wages, or grant people criminally irresponsible loans and then sell those loans to insurance companies, which then try to toss the hot potato until someone finally gets stuck with it, it’s all part of “business as usual.” Their only aim is to write billions on the plus column at the end of every quarter.
And this attitude is not the sole property of banks. Essentially, every business operates this way, from insurance companies, through banks and hedge funds, down to the mom-and-pop grocery stores. We call it the “free market.”

Today, however, we must all undertake a serious inspection of our system to see where we have gone wrong. When we do so, we will see that there is nothing wrong with the idea of having banks or insurance companies in our world. Banks are potentially a good thing, because without them we could not finance our dreams. Insurance companies are also positive forces because they guarantee that we will not be thrown out on the street, should something go wrong in our lives.

Therefore, all that needs to change is the business’ goal—from benefitting itself, at the expense of its competitors, to benefitting the whole of society. We should plan our financial dealings in such a way that the net profits will go toward promoting humanity, instead of the business. In business, as in politics, protectionism is a double-edged sword, which punishes its operator far worse than its intended target.

Did You Know that Mutual Benefit Translates into Huge Mutual Profit?
When TV, arts, and schools change the social atmosphere to one of caring and camaraderie, accolade will be a prize worth winning. Then, instead of the current profit-oriented system, the reward for benefitting society will be social recognition and appreciation.

Thus, if all of us aim to benefit more than just ourselves or our shareholders, we and all our customers will prosper because people will trust each other. Clearly, where money is concerned, trust is paramount.

Currently, banks have no trust in other banks. Insurance companies also have no trust in banks, or in each other, and no one trusts the borrowers, because borrowers cannot trust their employers to not fire them the next day, because the employers themselves are dependent on market demand, and no one trusts the market these days.

This brings us back to the first point: studying nature’s laws. We are not going to trust each other until we understand how we, and the whole of reality, are formulated. Then, we can collectively decide to follow that inner formula of balance. When we do, borrowers will trust their employers, who will trust the banks, who will trust the insurance companies, and everyone will trust the market.

Thus, until we learn to function as one big united human family, we will not recover from the recession. But when we do, we will not only have everything we need for comfortable living, we will be secure in knowing that we will have it in the future, and so will our children and our children’s children.
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“Healthy Relationships Make A Healthy Economy!” is based on the book, Bail Yourself Out: How You Can Emerge Strong from the World Crisis by Dr. Michael Laitman.

We Wish You…

We wish you Laughter, the kind that stays in your heart…
We wish you Joy, the kind that feels like a fountain within…
We wish you Sunshine, to smile on your face, & make the world a lovely place…

We wish you Friendships, tried and true, old and new…
We wish you Peace, through all your days…
We wish you Adventures, something new to do and new to you…

We wish you Love, the kind that loving people love to find…
We wish you Memories, joys of the past that seem to last…
We wish you Happiness, a sense of well being special to you not just today but all your days through…

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