If You Want To Go Fast..

If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.

The source of the proverb isn’t certain, but its truth is as old as what it means to be human. Long ago, people relied on their tribes to survive. They relied in real physical ways. There was no way that they could say, “Let’s practice physical distancing.” If they had, they would have died from the reality that life at a distance is no life at all. People require touch. Not the kind of “manufactured touch” that often comes from apparently “trained” professionals.

My grandmother could give a foot massage that I had never received after paying $60 an hour from a professional. I’m sure there are good professionals out there, but I did not encounter one. I did volunteer hand and foot massage in the hospital years ago, and the nurses used to joke, “Oh, you need to do me next!” But I know it was no joke. People need this. The people I had looked after had really appreciated it, and I feel that it helps open the energy channels in the body. And most important, it feels good!

Right now, nature might be teaching us that our “connections” were broken before and that old apparently “normal” was nothing normal at all. People putting money and status before the truly important things in life. Rushing around without any kind of presence of mind. Living to eat instead of eating to live.

connect tree.jpgThe range of troubles that come from lack of connection are coming to their head and I’m sure we all are aware that change needs to happen and it needs to happen now. We are out of time. Individually and collectively, once we get this virus under control, it will not be enough to make permanent change. There will be another and another unless we fix our mental state, which leads to physical ill health as well.

It is believed now that although we don’t “see” the connection in the space between us, it exists and we have an influence on each other even if we don’t know each other. Anyone who knows the phenomenon of quantum entanglement and quantum particles reacting at a distance to one another could understand how this might work between us. See YouTube for many videos for a description of the experiment. Here is one link:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JFozGfxmi8A

If you have young children, you know how difficult it is to orchestrate a trip out. Everyone needs to be washed and fed. Provisions need to be packed for everyone. A plan needs to be in place for needed bathroom and rest breaks. The children need to know where they are going and why. One child might love to read. Another might love to solve puzzles. Another might want to write or observe.

The different desires and needs of everyone needs to be taken into account for a happy and successful outing. And people need to be able to share their experience in a meaningful way with others who will truly listen and care about what they have to say, understanding that what they have to say, is worthy. And this, too, takes time and strategy because a sharing of time and resources and mental and physical stamina must exist along with true mutual responsibility. Not mere lip service or some form of plastic toy that is played with and thrown away very quickly in favour of something else apparently more bright and shiny.

At this time, when people are re-shaping the world, we can take the time to make critical decisions that involve everyone around us in our sphere.connect3.png

We have the opportunity to think ahead and decide to walk through this, planning ahead as best as we can and taking action so that our “trip” together is as easy and fun for everyone involved.

If someone rushes you, tell them to go look at a flower and see that it is in no rush to grow. Tomorrow will come or it won’t. Today is a gift. That’s why they call it a present.

Connectionz Don’t Have To Be Complicated.

They don’t have to be, yet we often make them so. Our actual needs are simple, yet day to day happenings seem to drive us to always want more, even though more often equates to less in the ways that are really important. Life becomes an autonomic event where we do things, but never really pay attention to what we’re doing.

Children want to learn, and will do almost anything if someone is willing to do it with them. Teens want to know that they are seen and heard. Adults want to know that what they do counts for something.

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What better way to demonstrate our ‘Connectionz’ with others than simply by being with them in a casual, easygoing way, you know simple, old-fashioned togetherness. If we try to see the ordinary as extraordinary, when talking with someone and not worrying about who’s right or wrong just being in the moment with them.

Staying awake to what matters most in anothers life. Loving and being loved. Embrace family. Restore people’s faith in humanity. Remember to give your whole heart and your whole mind to those we are with — before it all disappears, whoosh!

For you to give this to another person to make this kind of impact in a lifetime is a special gift, but it takes practice. Some people never, ever grasp this concept. Let this not be your fate. Let this not be the fate of those around and close to you. Let it not be the fate of anyone.

Grab those around you – big or small – look into their faces, show them your eyes, let them see that you care. Give what you can everyday and in every way and you will find that your capacity for that giving grows as you do so. When you give all you are able, you will not regret it. Your only regret may be that you held back, that you didn’t or were unable to have done more.

Team Work

I want to ask my village of friends all around the world, to share with us their favorite ordinary moments… the times when you overjoyed just to do for others… the times when the only thing that really mattered was the connection, your words will be inspirational and wise beyond comprehension.

It’s not about traveling to someplace, about spending huge sums of money or throwing amazing parties. But about the simple things: The best moments are when 
we’re together because the simple things are powerful. Those moments are what make make for the best memories. The ones that we can think about often, those that lift us up.

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What If?

For most of us, life is an ongoing search to uncover the opportunities.  Even though they may be happening all around us, all the time there is a constant battle inside us, trying to figure out whether we think something will work, whether we would like to actually do it and whether we could actually manage doing it.opportunity post

The common denominator through this whole process is that we are trying to manage change in our lives,  but that’s stupid.  Managing change never works.  It’s impossible to foretell what may come from change since change itself creates its own direction without knowing that direction there’s no way we manage it.  All we can do is create change by doing this we stay ahead of the change rather than trying to follow it.

We can do this by using, ‘What if?’, each time we ask ourselves ‘What if?’ the answer is uniquely our own and based on our understanding, experiences, wants and needs and abilities.  It’s created by us, for us no other person’s answer could be exactly the same.  At that point you are creating change and you are out in front of it because it is your change.  You are defining it rather than trying to manage what someone has started.
Once you make it a habit of asking ‘What if? you won’t want to go back.

When we are young we have very little sense of what is happening around us our world is small so we look for things to do within that world.  As we grow and learn about new things in our world, our wants and needs increase drastically along with our ability to do more.  Most of us arrive at a point where we all have more to do, than time to do it in.  We fall victim to time poverty.  It happens to everyone.  Every time we turn around we are being asked or asking ourselves for or to do something else.  It’s not our fault it’s the the way we have chosen to be.eyes of child

The trick becomes not to try and do everything but to do what matters most.  We need to make sure that we are not majoring in minor things.  There is simply not enough time to do everything.  But there is enough time to do the most important things, we have to decide for ourselves what those things are.  What will make the largest impact on what we need or want the most.  Its not about the challenge itself, it’s about how it could impact the outcomes we are looking for.

‘What if?’, can help us in a big way.  Because it helps us to change our thinking,  It helps us to become possibility thinkers instead of reactors. We open our minds to the possibilities around us.  By asking ‘What if?’, all we are doing is taking a problem and using our uniqueness to come up with an answer.  We do this by making it an exercise in fun.  This makes things lite and easier to deal with.  What usually happens is we place them on a pedestal, ‘Oh the problem’, ‘look at the problem’.
We don’t want to diminish the importance of problems, but if we can make them fun it helps us distance our self from them, stand outside of them, obtain a different and often better perspective.  Hence a better solution but one that is uniquely ours.

perspectiveWe don’t want to look at things as a problem but as opportunities instead.  We hear that all the time.  But how does a problem become an opportunity.  It’s through you and me, when we become willing to step away from them, look at them from a different perspective.  In a way that has never been done before, ‘What if I could?’.  We open up our creativity, we embrace it and use it. We are, all creative, just in different ways, we have to learn about the creativity within us by using our life and experiences.

Read the first chapter, Access Your Potential

Come back again, to read the next chapter, and we’ll talk more about the “What If Opportunities” around and inside us.

Access Your Potential

There is a book that was published some time ago, “If life is a bowl of cherries, why am I always in the pits?”  This often sums up, many people’s feelings.  What’s the answer?  It’s our self-talk, the banter that goes on inside our heads every minute of every day.
You see from a very early age we’re taught to be mindful, watch where we go, watch what we’re doing, how we’re doing it?  Early on in our lives, we learn two of the most powerful words there are in language for us, “Don’t and No”.  noFor many people these are the first words they actually learn to understand, say and recognize.  Of course these are taught by our parents and mentors to help to protect us from things happening.  Unfortunately, by learning these words at such an impressionable time in our lives we also learn to incorporate them into our self-talk, without even realizing we’re doing it.

As human beings we are capable of doing so much,  much more then we ever think is possible.  I am passionate believer in that.  Each and every one of us is a mine of unrealized potential.  We miss opportunities to harvest most of that potential every day.  Opportunities happen all around us, all the time.  We need to learn to recognize them and we to learn how to take advantage of those opportunities and access that potential within us.

Opportunities permit us to step beyond what’s been done before, they provide us the chance to challenge the status quo, to look at old things in a new way.  Most of us have heard the saying, ‘When life gives you lemons, make lemonade’.  What we’re talking about is taking what you think are problems, and turning them into something new and exciting.

So how do we access that potential.  The principles behind what it takes to access that potential are the same no matter what career or industry you are in.  We can apply them just as easily to our home life or anything else that we want to accomplish.  It isn’t easy, and it doesn’t happen overnight.  In order to have the impact that I’m speaking of we need to look deep into ourselves and ask the person we find there if they actually want to change?  Because without a commitment to change, it won’t happen.
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Basically, we need to get past what holds us back.  I’m not speaking of the human limitations we may have, I’m speaking of the only true limitation that we all have.  “Ourselves”  If we can do that we are well on our way.

We ignore or give away more than half the opportunities in our lives, and most of our true potential lies at the beginning of those opportunities.  “Every Day Of Our Lives”.  When we see, hear or think about anything our first reaction often is “That’s great, but I could never do that”, or possibly we say “I could try that”, but then we never follow through.  Then there’s the big one, the one where we actually start something and only aim at the middle.  They aim at mediocrity, and they hit it.  “Why?”

It’s our fears, we all have fears.  But in general there are only three that hold us back:
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1) the fear of failure,
2) the fear of rejection,
3) the fear of success.

Read the next chapter and find out more about realizing our potential.  Problems and Opportunities