What If?

For most of us, life is an ongoing search to uncover the opportunities.  Even though they may be happening all around us, all the time there is a constant battle inside us, trying to figure out whether we think something will work, whether we would like to actually do it and whether we could actually manage doing it.opportunity post

The common denominator through this whole process is that we are trying to manage change in our lives,  but that’s stupid.  Managing change never works.  It’s impossible to foretell what may come from change since change itself creates its own direction without knowing that direction there’s no way we manage it.  All we can do is create change by doing this we stay ahead of the change rather than trying to follow it.

We can do this by using, ‘What if?’, each time we ask ourselves ‘What if?’ the answer is uniquely our own and based on our understanding, experiences, wants and needs and abilities.  It’s created by us, for us no other person’s answer could be exactly the same.  At that point you are creating change and you are out in front of it because it is your change.  You are defining it rather than trying to manage what someone has started.
Once you make it a habit of asking ‘What if? you won’t want to go back.

When we are young we have very little sense of what is happening around us our world is small so we look for things to do within that world.  As we grow and learn about new things in our world, our wants and needs increase drastically along with our ability to do more.  Most of us arrive at a point where we all have more to do, than time to do it in.  We fall victim to time poverty.  It happens to everyone.  Every time we turn around we are being asked or asking ourselves for or to do something else.  It’s not our fault it’s the the way we have chosen to be.eyes of child

The trick becomes not to try and do everything but to do what matters most.  We need to make sure that we are not majoring in minor things.  There is simply not enough time to do everything.  But there is enough time to do the most important things, we have to decide for ourselves what those things are.  What will make the largest impact on what we need or want the most.  Its not about the challenge itself, it’s about how it could impact the outcomes we are looking for.

‘What if?’, can help us in a big way.  Because it helps us to change our thinking,  It helps us to become possibility thinkers instead of reactors. We open our minds to the possibilities around us.  By asking ‘What if?’, all we are doing is taking a problem and using our uniqueness to come up with an answer.  We do this by making it an exercise in fun.  This makes things lite and easier to deal with.  What usually happens is we place them on a pedestal, ‘Oh the problem’, ‘look at the problem’.
We don’t want to diminish the importance of problems, but if we can make them fun it helps us distance our self from them, stand outside of them, obtain a different and often better perspective.  Hence a better solution but one that is uniquely ours.

perspectiveWe don’t want to look at things as a problem but as opportunities instead.  We hear that all the time.  But how does a problem become an opportunity.  It’s through you and me, when we become willing to step away from them, look at them from a different perspective.  In a way that has never been done before, ‘What if I could?’.  We open up our creativity, we embrace it and use it. We are, all creative, just in different ways, we have to learn about the creativity within us by using our life and experiences.

Read the first chapter, Access Your Potential

Come back again, to read the next chapter, and we’ll talk more about the “What If Opportunities” around and inside us.

Access Your Potential

There is a book that was published some time ago, “If life is a bowl of cherries, why am I always in the pits?”  This often sums up, many people’s feelings.  What’s the answer?  It’s our self-talk, the banter that goes on inside our heads every minute of every day.
You see from a very early age we’re taught to be mindful, watch where we go, watch what we’re doing, how we’re doing it?  Early on in our lives, we learn two of the most powerful words there are in language for us, “Don’t and No”.  noFor many people these are the first words they actually learn to understand, say and recognize.  Of course these are taught by our parents and mentors to help to protect us from things happening.  Unfortunately, by learning these words at such an impressionable time in our lives we also learn to incorporate them into our self-talk, without even realizing we’re doing it.

As human beings we are capable of doing so much,  much more then we ever think is possible.  I am passionate believer in that.  Each and every one of us is a mine of unrealized potential.  We miss opportunities to harvest most of that potential every day.  Opportunities happen all around us, all the time.  We need to learn to recognize them and we to learn how to take advantage of those opportunities and access that potential within us.

Opportunities permit us to step beyond what’s been done before, they provide us the chance to challenge the status quo, to look at old things in a new way.  Most of us have heard the saying, ‘When life gives you lemons, make lemonade’.  What we’re talking about is taking what you think are problems, and turning them into something new and exciting.

So how do we access that potential.  The principles behind what it takes to access that potential are the same no matter what career or industry you are in.  We can apply them just as easily to our home life or anything else that we want to accomplish.  It isn’t easy, and it doesn’t happen overnight.  In order to have the impact that I’m speaking of we need to look deep into ourselves and ask the person we find there if they actually want to change?  Because without a commitment to change, it won’t happen.
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Basically, we need to get past what holds us back.  I’m not speaking of the human limitations we may have, I’m speaking of the only true limitation that we all have.  “Ourselves”  If we can do that we are well on our way.

We ignore or give away more than half the opportunities in our lives, and most of our true potential lies at the beginning of those opportunities.  “Every Day Of Our Lives”.  When we see, hear or think about anything our first reaction often is “That’s great, but I could never do that”, or possibly we say “I could try that”, but then we never follow through.  Then there’s the big one, the one where we actually start something and only aim at the middle.  They aim at mediocrity, and they hit it.  “Why?”

It’s our fears, we all have fears.  But in general there are only three that hold us back:
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1) the fear of failure,
2) the fear of rejection,
3) the fear of success.

Read the next chapter and find out more about realizing our potential.  Problems and Opportunities