What If?

For most of us, life is an ongoing search to uncover the opportunities.  Even though they may be happening all around us, all the time there is a constant battle inside us, trying to figure out whether we think something will work, whether we would like to actually do it and whether we could actually manage doing it.opportunity post

The common denominator through this whole process is that we are trying to manage change in our lives,  but that’s stupid.  Managing change never works.  It’s impossible to foretell what may come from change since change itself creates its own direction without knowing that direction there’s no way we manage it.  All we can do is create change by doing this we stay ahead of the change rather than trying to follow it.

We can do this by using, ‘What if?’, each time we ask ourselves ‘What if?’ the answer is uniquely our own and based on our understanding, experiences, wants and needs and abilities.  It’s created by us, for us no other person’s answer could be exactly the same.  At that point you are creating change and you are out in front of it because it is your change.  You are defining it rather than trying to manage what someone has started.
Once you make it a habit of asking ‘What if? you won’t want to go back.

When we are young we have very little sense of what is happening around us our world is small so we look for things to do within that world.  As we grow and learn about new things in our world, our wants and needs increase drastically along with our ability to do more.  Most of us arrive at a point where we all have more to do, than time to do it in.  We fall victim to time poverty.  It happens to everyone.  Every time we turn around we are being asked or asking ourselves for or to do something else.  It’s not our fault it’s the the way we have chosen to be.eyes of child

The trick becomes not to try and do everything but to do what matters most.  We need to make sure that we are not majoring in minor things.  There is simply not enough time to do everything.  But there is enough time to do the most important things, we have to decide for ourselves what those things are.  What will make the largest impact on what we need or want the most.  Its not about the challenge itself, it’s about how it could impact the outcomes we are looking for.

‘What if?’, can help us in a big way.  Because it helps us to change our thinking,  It helps us to become possibility thinkers instead of reactors. We open our minds to the possibilities around us.  By asking ‘What if?’, all we are doing is taking a problem and using our uniqueness to come up with an answer.  We do this by making it an exercise in fun.  This makes things lite and easier to deal with.  What usually happens is we place them on a pedestal, ‘Oh the problem’, ‘look at the problem’.
We don’t want to diminish the importance of problems, but if we can make them fun it helps us distance our self from them, stand outside of them, obtain a different and often better perspective.  Hence a better solution but one that is uniquely ours.

perspectiveWe don’t want to look at things as a problem but as opportunities instead.  We hear that all the time.  But how does a problem become an opportunity.  It’s through you and me, when we become willing to step away from them, look at them from a different perspective.  In a way that has never been done before, ‘What if I could?’.  We open up our creativity, we embrace it and use it. We are, all creative, just in different ways, we have to learn about the creativity within us by using our life and experiences.

Read the first chapter, Access Your Potential

Come back again, to read the next chapter, and we’ll talk more about the “What If Opportunities” around and inside us.

Guerrilla Gardens in Overlooked and Unused Spaces

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Our home really enjoys having its annual gardens, and honestly I can’t think of anyone who grows a garden who doesn’t look forward to it each year.  We started out small about five years ago, just trying to grow a few things in what we saw as limited space.  Our initial ideas have mushroomed each year since.  Today instead of looking at our yard with an idea of limited growing space we look for ways and places to grow more.

What started out as just something to try, has grown into a annual affair that includes our children as well.  On one side of the yard we used an old fence along with some purchased construction poly and created a greenhouse area that has become ideal for growing tomatoes and peppers.  We removed a few strategically placed patches of grass and created raspberry and strawberry patches.  What was once a grassy area in the middle of the yard has been raised up and is now an above ground garden being used for growing various onions, leafy vegetables and herbs.

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We always like the idea of having some berry bushes for ourselves so last year pulled out a section on another side of the yard and planted Saskatoon berries, Currants, Blueberries, and Rhubarb.  We also decided last year that the small old shed we had, needed to go, that spot was re-purposed and changed into another greenhouse.  All in all our garden project has increased quite substantially, but the area that we have hasn’t changed, we merely changed the way we think about it, we’ve moved away from the idea of having grass everywhere to one of, what would we like to grow on this spot, whether is by putting it in the ground or using a potter or above ground garden.

It seems hard to make little plans when it concerns our gardens now, every new decision creates new ideas.  Gardening, growing and making for ourselves has definitely become a part of our lives.  Many of the trappings of this modern age, like fast food, processed groceries and its cheap and poorly made mass produced goods have lost there luster for us.  As we speak to others we get the same feelings and hear many of the same words from them.

The changes we’ve made to our urban life have made us feel more comfortable doing things we never did earlier in our lives.  We didn’t grow up on farms so we didn’t get the chance to live or be part of that side of culture, so for us growing our own tomatoes, peppers, cucumbers, onions… is a big thing.  All of the items we grow taste so much better that the ones we have bought in the stores.  Sweeter, juicier and more flavorful, and if I were a chemist I’m sure I could prove scientifically they are healthier for us.

This year we are adding another level to our home gardening.  We have joined a local group that supports and runs a community garden and for a small fee we are able to use a small amount of community property for the growing season.  This extra area will allow us to add potatoes and beets to our growing list of home grown foods.  We’re not at the point of self-sustaining yet, but the more we do, it seems the better we feel in more ways than one.

Small projects like the ones we’ve done are what make life in urban and city areas more livable, everywhere we look people seem to be getting the same or similar ideas.  ‘Guerrilla gardens in overlooked and unused spaces’, these interventions to an existing way of life seem to be the only way families stand a real chance at a long term healthy life.  Just go online and you can find example upon example.

“Inspiration breeds inspiration. Simple, interventions are contagious.”

not-easyWe can squeeze more nature into our lives and in so doing we can make and help create good things for ourselves and for others to benefit and share in. It requires a little bit of creativity, some work and a change of attitude.  With communication mediums like the internet on our side today’s good ideas can spread across the world in an instant.

Perceiving Reality

Perceiving Reality


“Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.” – Albert Einstein



Our view of the world is constantly being filtered through our culture, we perceive that culture as reality through our senses – sight, smell, taste, sound and touch. Basically we create our own realities through our physical inputs.senses

Everything we perceive as being outside of ourselves is really coming from within. Each of us sees the world a little differently. Our brain receives in the neighborhood of 10 million bits of information every second, but you might only process 10000 if you’re lucky. The brain filters the millions of bits through our senses and our beliefs which use it the way we have learned to our cultures and society. For most individuals these are the ways we have been actually taught to view and live our lives, a generally scientific view – if I can see it, hear it, touch it, smell it, taste it – then it must be real. These somewhat objective and mechanical means do well for the most part.

What of everything else, that we are told exists but can never actually use our own physical inputs with? What of the multitude of things that objectivity and science has sprung on us after mankind has been repeatedly told they doesn’t exist. Ask yourself: Is it that the world exists and I’m here observing it, or is it that I exist and through my perception I create the reality around me at every moment?

Columbus sailed the ocean, and as he drew closer to North America, a Native American on the shore looking out at the sea, simply would not have seen the approaching ships, oh they may see something, but you see they had never seen sailing ships before so they had no picture installed in their minds, one that could tell them that “a big house sailing on the water is coming towards us (a ship)!” They would have observed a shape and movement on the sea, understood that something was happening. But would have had no idea what.columbus

By concentrating on what was was there, an image would have gradually formed in there mind until it became a clearly identifiable object – what we know of as a ship. Only then would they see and be able to describe it to his or her people. This image was then also depicted in their imagination.

Do we truly only see what’s inside us? If we have no form or mold of an object inside our mind, can we recognize it, without a shift in our perception? The next logical question then, is whether the perceptions we get from our inputs is uniformly the same to everyone before it has went through our filters, or are we merely responding to patterns that we have been trained with throughout our lives? Does what I perceive differ from another person perceives? If I do not recognize a given form and cannot perceive it with my five senses then does it actually exist?

These types of questions this knowledge is somewhat difficult whether we’ve read about it before or not. I mean, it always feels like there are things outside of me. If I walk barefoot on the sand near the water I feel the soft dampness of the wet sand under my feet or if I buy chocolate ice cream I feel the cold spark as soon as the ice cream enters my mouth, followed by the sweet taste of the chocolate. So what does that mean, that I’m creating this reality for myself? Is the whole world around me just one big illusion?

On the one hand, I’m told that my reality is limited to my five senses and I do not perceive everything around me, and on the other hand I’m told that I can only perceive something if I know it. So the problem is how am I supposed to perceive this new reality when I have absolutely no idea about it, what it – this new form – is like? How do I? Where do I receive these new forms?

This would be accomplished in the same way that the Indian described the ship to his tribe, and they then developed the image of this big house floating on the water in their minds, by simply listening to nature and others who have already gained those new forms, in this way we expand our own realities and help others expand there’s.

Existence operates on a “equivalence of form”, by listening for and to those equivalencies instead of culture and society, we are able to absorb the forms and mold what would otherwise be unavailable to us. Some would call this meditation or communing.

There are many levels of existence, from the smallest that we are unable to see to the largest which again we are unable to see, those levels of existence have been blocked from our physical senses, most individuals are incapable of registering even the smallest perception of them. Those levels are worlds unto themselves, our upper and lower worlds if you like. By attaining and implanting new forms and molds we allow ourselves the capability to perceive a reality that would otherwise be hidden from our inputs or senses and give birth to a new perception of reality.

When we learn how to recognize existence and the operating forces behind it we can understand why many things happen as they do, possibly even what our role may be within this illusion we call “reality.” Learning of how to recognize the operating forces in life and getting the guidance on how to equalize our form within nature is precisely what we all need to learn.

Try this…. Take a minute to look around you. Are you in a familiar place or somewhere new? Stop reading this, and just look around you. Pick out an object, maybe something you hadn’t noticed before, and focus your attention on it. If you really focus it’ll get brighter and seem more “real” than it was when it was just an unnoticed piece of the background noise in your life. Now, try to view your surroundings from the point of the object. Some people can do this with no effort while for others it takes some time and concentration. Depending on how adept you are at focusing your concentration, you may notice a slight shift in your perception – a weird jump in realty, where you are suddenly viewing the world from a different perspective.

Did it work? Whether you noticed anything or not, your perception did change, albeit for just an instant.

face“Everything you see, hear or experience in any way at all is specific to you. You create your universe by perceiving it, so everything in the universe you perceive is specific to you.” – Douglas Adams


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Listen – Understand – Reply

Listen – Understand – Reply

To understand someone we have to listen…

“Holy listening – is to listen to another’s soul in life, a condition of disclosure and discovery, may be almost the greatest service that any human being ever performs for another.” ~ Douglas Steere look2

I’m an English speaking person, I know a some words in many languages, none really enough to carry on a full conversation. So when I’ve traveled to non-English countries I’ve found that I must listen to every word that was being spoken to me. I had to watch for non-verbal clues, arm movements, body and sign language even the voice tone and volume level, to capture some part of the meaning or intent of what was being said to me. Traveling really did give me some unforgettable lessons.

Although we may not always know exactly what it is, every person has a reason for what they’re trying to say. Sometimes impatience or distractedness on our part causes us to drift. Often I think it’s just that we are, human beasts… so consumed with our own opinions, that we prejudge what others are trying to say before they’ve finished. And at times even before we have our own clear thoughts about what was or is being said. We aren’t actually trying to do that, but our ego’s take over and we lose our sense of control. Even the best of us!

WordsTo be a better listener… you have to hold another person’s desire to express themselves above and over your own desire to express yourself. If you spend all or most of a conversation concentrating on something else, or even thinking about the next thing you want to say in response, you’re not really listening.

Instead of letting our minds drift in and out or thinking about what to say in response, try to actually focus on the the speaker themselves. Most people unfortunately are easily distracted by thoughts of what they want to say, sometimes they may even be a little exited about a thought they have and want to respond immediately so they don’t forget it. Other times they simply have their own opinion locked and loaded to fire off as soon as there is the slightest break in dialogue. What we must do, is really try to hold off and let the other person finish their thought, then let the response flow naturally and directly from and in response to what they has just said.

The interesting thing is none of us are perfect…we try so hard to appear that way, but we aren’t. Most of the time we just simply miss the point; that we are social beings and learn an immense amount from just being with and listening to others. Recently I read something that sounded very simple yet somewhat profound in regard to listening to people.

To be an active part of an conversation we must:

- Explore, what is being said in terms of the speakers worldidea
- Respond, try to be very clear of what what was said, and respond again in terms of the speakers world
- Encourage, the conversation to be a back and forth flow, for each to understand clearly

Conversations by nature are two way, although there will always be some people who are self-centered and demand more. But that is not the intent of the majority. Most, want to have meaningful conversations, especially with those we care about. We just have little or no experience at doing this. Response thinking we must try and try and try again.

A meaningful conversation is about finding a connection where the potential exists. Often subliminal, but present nonetheless. If someone is talking the time to speak with you, they are trying to make a connection, and it’s more of a privilege than many may comprehend. More than mere words are happening, more than great or grandiose thoughts, we are giving and receiving a portion of life, through the time that we are with them. Honestly there is little else that can even come close to being so valuable a gift.

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So the true essence of being a great listener then is to appreciate and cherish all the moments that we spend with others, for they will never again return to us. Give others your full attention. If we all try to do this, then we will make the world a better place for all!

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We Wish You…

We wish you Laughter, the kind that stays in your heart…
We wish you Joy, the kind that feels like a fountain within…
We wish you Sunshine, to smile on your face, & make the world a lovely place…

We wish you Friendships, tried and true, old and new…
We wish you Peace, through all your days…
We wish you Adventures, something new to do and new to you…

We wish you Love, the kind that loving people love to find…
We wish you Memories, joys of the past that seem to last…
We wish you Happiness, a sense of well being special to you not just today but all your days through…

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